FAQ for People with Hypospadias or Epispadias
I’m a young man with hypospadias/epispadias. I want to be
romantically involved, but I’m afraid I’ll be rejected because of my
condition. What should I do?
Your condition may not be as
obvious to other people as it is to yourself, even if your potential
sexual partner has had sexual encounters with other guys before. The
biggest difference in your penis is most likely cosmetic, and most
partners will not be very concerned with the cosmetic appearance of
your penis. Nevertheless, it would be wise to tell your partner briefly
about your condition a bit beforehand (but not on the first date) just
to avoid surprises. However, if you make a big deal out of the
condition, it is more likely that your partner will make a big deal out
of it too. Simply mention that you were born with a minor birth defect
on your penis (even severe hypospadias/epispadias is a minor birth
defect compared to most) so it may appear a bit different. Your partner
may be curious and ask questions, and that’s fine. Answer the questions
simply and honestly without dwelling on the subject. It is very
unlikely that a partner will reject you because your penis is
different, but they may very well reject you if you seem obsessed with
the subject.
Will I be able to father children?
In
order for a man to be able to impregnate his partner, two basic events
must occur: (1) the man's testes must produce adequate numbers of
viable sperm; (2) semen (containing the viable sperm) must be deposited
into the woman's vagina so it can migrate to the fallopian tube where
fertilization occurs. There is no medical evidence that men with
hypospadias/epispadias are more likely to be infertile (event #1).
However, it may be difficult to achieve event #2 if the urethral
opening is positioned so that semen does not enter the vagina. Such a
situation does not preclude someone from being able to father children,
however. Artificial insemination could be used to transfer the man's
semen into the proper location for fertilization. Alternatively, some
people claim to have had success with "do it yourself" artificial
insemination by manually transferring semen or using a device such as a
turkey baster.
I have hypospadias/epispadias. Are there any special hygiene concerns?
Yes.
Men with hypospadias/epispadias may have a larger urethral opening than
average, so wash your penis very carefully so that irritants such as
soap do not enter the urethra. Other irritants that may enter the
urethra include spermicides, so it may be wise to avoid using sexual
lubricants that contain spermicide. Additionally, you may have a higher
risk of contracting HIV or other sexually transmitted diseases,
especially if your urethra is irritated and inflamed, so condoms are
especially important. You may also be at greater risk of contracting
urinary tract infections, so consider preventive measures such as
drinking plenty of fluids, drinking cranberry juice, and urinating when
you have the urge without holding it in for extended periods of time.
Should I have surgical correction as an adult?
Surgery
is often more complicated as a teenager or an adult than it is as a
child. Take the time needed to research the issue thoroughly and talk
to different physicians. Always seek out second and third opinions, and
ask each physician about the expected benefits and risks of surgery and
the consequences of not performing surgery, as not every physician may
offer the same advice (read HEA's official position on corrective
surgery here). Evaluate your motivations for surgery, whether
improvement of cosmetic appearance or improved function, and determine
how likely surgical correction will meet those goals. Consider possible
side-effects, including reduced sexual sensitivity, and weigh the
possibility against likely improvement from surgery.
What does corrective surgery involve?
The
precise method of surgery is constantly evolving, and there are several
different surgical techniques for hypospadias and epispadias. However,
there are two basic goals of corrective surgery: (1) To straighten the
penis (if chordee is present); (2) To extend the urethra to the tip of
the penis. Straightening the penis typically involves cutting tissue
that is pulling on the tip of the penis and causing it to bend toward
the shaft. Extending the urethra can be more complicated, depending on
the severity of the condition. Tissue grafts (often from the foreskin)
are typically used to create an artificial urethra that will be
inserted inside the penis, joining the existing urethra to a man-made
opening created at the tip of the penis. Mild cases may be treated in a
single operation, whereas more severe cases typically require multiple
surgeries.
What are the possible risks and side effects of surgery?
In
addition to the risks associated with any surgery, the most common
potential problems include stricture of the urethra (narrowing of the
urethra typically caused by scar tissue which restricts urine flow),
fistulae (holes that may form along suture lines through which urine
may leak), hair growth inside the urethra (if the grafted tissue
contains hair follicles), and formation of scar tissue which may lessen
sexual sensitivity. In some cases, a surgical operation may fail
completely, in which case the grafted tissue will have to be removed,
and the operation repeated.
How do I choose a good surgeon?
The
only way you can find the right physician for you is to talk to several
in person. Even if the first one you talk to seems perfect, get a
second (or third) opinion. Ask each surgeon how often he/she performs
corrective surgery on men and older boys whose condition is similar in
severity to yours. Get precise numbers (once per week, twice per month,
etc.), not vague terms like “often” or “all the time”. Ask whether the
surgeon will actually perform the surgery himself/herself or will
simply supervise a less-experienced surgeon. Ask how many stages
(separate operations) will be required for repair and how much recovery
time there will be between operations. Find out how frequently the
surgeon’s operations on men and older boys fail and need follow-up
surgery. Again, ask for precise numbers, not subjective terms like
“rare” or “occasionally”. Ask if the surgeon has any before-and-after
photographs. Narrow down your choices to the surgeons with the most
experience treating hypospadias and epispadias and the lowest failure
rates. Then consider which surgeon you feel most comfortable with and
are not intimidated by or afraid to question. Be wary if a surgeon
makes promises that seem to good to be true. If one surgeon promises a
one-stage repair whereas all the other surgeons predict a three-stage
repair, ask probing questions to explain the discrepancy.